Relationships: The Magic Wand That Changes Everything

Looking for the magic wand that makes your relationships amazing? Ready to stop all the hurt–already from your early childhood?

Well, I found one, a magic wand, that is. It came to me during a meditation so I used it right then. Guess what.

It worked.

And it continues to work every time with every person with whom I proportion it.

So, do you want to know how the wand works? Excellent. Grab a pen and paper (you likely will need at the minimum two sheets of paper) and continue reading.

Write down the name of every person who ever hurt you (okay, you perceived as them doing something to you or failing to do something you wanted and you felt hurt) and the specific behaviors that hurt you.

Done? Take your time. You want to get every incident that you’ve stored inside causing you grief every day-whether or not you know that fact in your awareness. Now look for the gift of who you got to become as a consequence. Write down the gift you are now allowing yourself to concede.

Now thank each person for behaving exactly as he or she did. Hey he or he gave you a gift, right?


The pain turns out to be the motivating force that led to your soul growth.

A true soul mate is someone who helps your soul evolve–sometimes, often, by pain. The media romanticized the term soul mate as a partner with whom life is perfect, glorious and always feels wonderful! The mission of a soul mate is to promote and foster soul growth in ways that make it happen.

Do you make changes when your life is all rosy and comfortable? Of course not. Why would you change what feels great?

So what am I talking about? Here is an example:

The woman who lives in an abusive relationship finally leaves (not an easy step to take). She decided that being mistreated was not permissible to her. She chose to step into her strength and change her passive life.

She recognized how powerful she is, that no one can take away her strength without her permission. And already then, no one can really take anything from anyone except by perception.

That formerly abused woman may ultimately become a role form and teacher for other abused women. She probably helps others see how much they too deserve to be treated well.

After a client attack left me disabled with a brain injury I told the therapist in the rehab center that I found the gifts in my life’s upheaval. He shared that the only clients he ever saw heal were those who found the gift in the tragedy.

Oh yeah, the wand. Did you catch the magic strength of the pen-in-hand? Suddenly what used to be your painful past has a whole new look and feel, yes?

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